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I enrolled my son in a two-year-old program at our local Jewish Community Center. I chose the JCC not only because of their outstanding reputation, but also because they have a "no meat policy" for kosher reasons. We attended a Thanksgiving Day program presented by the three-year-old and four-year-old classes and I was appalled by the songs these children were taught. In one song, the children sang, "Grab a turkey and stuff him in the oven" to the tune of "Ten Little Indians." Practically all of the songs were about eating turkeys and how good they taste. Next year my son will be in the three-year-old class and will be taught these songs if I don't step in and do something. How do you suggest I handle this in the future? I am already dreading it!

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You have a few options:

1. Write a letter or speak to the instructor about your concerns that the children are singing songs that seem to focus on animal cruelty. Explain why you think this is not a good message for the children and be SURE to suggest other songs they could sing that would be appropriate. Do whatever you can to make it as easy as possible for the instructor to change. Provide music, lyrics, suggested costumes, etc. Be sure your letter or tone is not accusing or full of blame. Express your concerns from your own point of view.

2. If the instructor won't change the program (and please don't expect him to, though it would be nice!) then you could tell the instructor that you are not comfortable with having your child participate in the singing. I'm sure they can work it out so he is simply not in the program. I know it would be so cute to see him singing, but if this is more important to you then remember there will be other shows in the future. During practice perhaps the instructor can find another task for your child.

3. Your other option is let your child sing the songs but explain to him as best you can why you don't condone the thoughts behind the words. He's probably too young to completely comprehend what he's singing about anyway. Only you can decide if you are comfortable with this option, but if he really wants to participate and doesn't want to stand out, you might just let him sing with the kids. I know there is silent approval in this option but at least no animals are being physically harmed by the songs.

Weigh your decision carefully and consult your conscience. Ask the school to change the songs, but don't expect them to. You have the right to keep your child out of that program if you want.

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