haha! i find myself justifying the size of my oldest boy (aiden) to strangers, eg. he's a december baby, his father was a small child, etc., etc... i have super-fatty breastmilk and i'm breastfeeding the baby (oliver) a lot longer than i breastfed his brother which, i think, explains his plumpness. there have been times when i considered pulling aiden up to the booby table in an effort to fatten him up too! :O
transitioning to a stay-at-home mom was easy in one sense - i was already on mat leave (which in Canada, as you know, is a full year) and it was difficult, emotionally speaking. some working moms (and i admit to being one of them) see stay-at-home moms as having the easiest job...when in reality (at least for me) being a stay-at-home mom is waaaaaaaay harder. i love my children, but they are anything but easy! aiden is highly sensitive and needs his environment to be managed 24/7 and the baby is messy and smelly
. i do a lot with them - weekly visits to the library, taking them to the park and playgroups, morning circle time at home...so it's a lot of work. i get, on a good day, one hour to myself a day, and i'm only really "away" from the children on the weekends when i go grocery shopping
and this is the strangest fact of all, but it's actually harder to find time to do housework when you're a stay-at-home mom! this could possibly be due to the fact that you are ALWAYS cleaning it! fingerprints on the windows, food on the walls and all over the floors, kids pulling clothes, toys, etc. out of their bedroom drawers, moving to the next room and making a mess there, and so on and so forth...
BUT for me, it was the best possible decision to make. i too always wanted to be a stay-at-home mom, and although he makes me want to scream on a daily basis, i've never been closer to aiden. we didn't really bond when he was a baby because he didn't like to be touched too much and he cried all the time, but we're absolutely bonded now. plus, although my in-laws love him dearly, there weren't "raising" him as i wanted him to be. there was a lot of tv watching and the food they fed him, although vegan, was hardly food at all.
i guess i could go on about this forever and i almost have
, i consider myself very lucky to be home with the boys. we have no money whatsoever, my college-degree husband collecting scrap metal on the side to keep us organically fed and second-hand clothed :O, but money is over-rated and love is all you need.